Sometimes, these holidays could get very complicated. Yes, they’re a time set aside to spend with family and friends, but if you’ve lost a loved one, then navigating the holidays could get pretty tough indeed. Loss means that lie won’t be the same as we knew it, and old family rites might turn sour or painful because your loved one is no longer there. Because grief, like everything has its ups and downs, it is best to know how to care for yourself during the holidays if you have suffered a loss.
Communicate your needs and wants
It’s okay to communicate your needs to your family during the holidays – according to Harvard Health. If you intend cancelling plans, or changing your mind about participating, it’s okay! If you can’t participate fully, you can always take part and leave when you think it is okay to.
Uphold those traditions you think are valuable
If you are comfortable with certain holiday celebrations in your family, then you can use that to pay respects to your loved one each year. You may as well adopt a tradition that the member of your family used to – for instance hosting brunch for the family on Christmas day – as a way of maintaining the tradition in memory of your loved one.
You could even start some new traditions
After the loss of your loved one, you might find it needful to do away with some old traditions while ushering in new holiday celebrations. For instance, you can invite everyone over for Christmas eve at your place. Or, on the other hand, you can celebrate with your friends or go out for dinner. You see, loss is another meaning for change, and if you find new ways of celebrating the holidays, then that’s fine.
Families can be complicated, and people have different ways of grieving. Always surround yourself with supportive buddies. Anyone who doesn’t support your grieving or who asks’ you to mask it for the sake of their comfort isn’t helping at all. This can aggravate feelings of isolation and loneliness. Having the right people around you when you are grieving is beneficial to your mental health and physical well-being. Always reach out if you need help!
From: Tia Lynn